Newsweek has two very good articles on education. What they say about how boys are treated in relation to girls strikes me as being very accurate. Too often, boys don’t get the same treatment as girls: the other day, one of my students was asking me if I had ever noticed how “girls can get away with more” than guys. “The other day [a particular girl] swore right in front of [a certain teacher] and they said nothing. If it had been a guy, he would have been sent right to the office.”
Too often, boys are seen as being intentionally disruptive and are disciplined harshly in response. While a bit of discipline is probably a good thing for them, it is imperative that they see the discipline as being fair to them as compared to those around them. Discipline applied unequally is regarded (rightly, in my mind) as tyranny and favoritism, and elicits a naturally negative response.
Another thing that I have noticed with my students is that many of them are more than willing to latch onto a male authority figure. I honestly believe that it is easier to be a teacher as a male — not only is there less of a will among both sexes to challenge authority (high school girls will challenge a female teacher almost like a peer for dominance, and boys will challenge a woman as seeming more weak and vulnerable to overthrow), but many of the students of both sexes that I have had so far have seemed eager for the attention and approval of an (arguably) mature male. As if teaching were not a big enough responsibility to start out with, a male teacher also takes on a status as a sort of part-time father figure.
Boys from stable two-parent homes are not exempt from the desire for adult male affirmation either. Quite often they will be more direct in seeking attention from a seemingly receptive man (possibly because they are already comfortable with male role models). In any event, boys need intentional understanding in classes in the same way that girls do.
UPDATE 1/26/06 12.20 PM: There is an interesting lawsuit here about this very topic. Definitely worth a look, if only for the innovative solutions the student has come up with for the problems. While some of them may not work, it’s time for some out-of-the-box thinking.